Prince Adelaja Adeoye has just been honored at the 2024 City People Real Estate Awards for his outstanding leadership and transformative impact in Nigeria’s real estate industry.
Life has taught me, and I am sure it has taught you too, that being a good person does not mean everybody around you will treat you with the same goodness. In fact, sometimes, the people you trust the most — friends, family, colleagues — can surprise you in ways that will shake you to your very bones.
The truth is this: not everybody lives by principles. Not everybody fears God. Not everybody values loyalty. Some people only think about themselves, and they can do things you never imagined. You may show them love, but they will repay you with betrayal. You may defend them in public, but they will stab you in private.
This is why we must never assume that just because we have clean hearts, others do too. The world is full of people who can do anything to get what they want — lie, cheat, betray, manipulate — even if it means hurting those closest to them.
If you have lived long enough, you would have seen examples. A trusted friend who suddenly betrays your confidence. A family member who turns against you when money or inheritance is involved. A business partner who disappears with your hard-earned savings. These things happen every day because human beings are complex.
Even in the Bible, Joseph’s own brothers sold him into slavery. Imagine! The same blood, the same family, yet they betrayed him. That should teach us that betrayal is not always far — it can come from those closest to us.
Now, I am not saying you should live in fear or suspect everyone. No. But what I am saying is this: be cautious. Guard your heart, guard your secrets, guard your expectations. Don’t be too quick to trust. Don’t put your whole life into the hands of people who have not proven their loyalty.
Being cautious does not mean being wicked; it simply means being wise. Even the Bible says, “Be wise as serpents and harmless as doves.”
Despite how the world is, you must never lose your own values. Don’t allow betrayal to turn you into what you hate. Stay true to yourself. Keep your principles. But at the same time, open your eyes wide. Don’t be naive. Don’t assume everyone will treat you the way you treat them.
My advice to you, as someone who has seen and experienced life, is this:
Be a good person, but don’t be a blind person.
Love people, but set boundaries.
Help people, but don’t put yourself in a place where they can destroy you.
Expect the best, but also prepare for the worst.
That is how to live wisely.
At the end of the day, you will realize that human beings are unpredictable. Some will bless you, others will hurt you. Some will honor you, others will betray you. But if you stay cautious, you will not be easily shaken when life reveals people’s true colors.
Remember: not everyone has your heart, not everyone has your principles. Be careful.
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