There’s something I have been thinking about deeply—something close to my heart as a man, a father, a leader, and most importantly, as a human being.
We often talk about empowerment and development, but we sometimes ignore where it begins: inside the home.
Too often, our women—especially wives—are made to silence their dreams just because they got married. Society expects them to serve, support, and stay silent. But let’s ask ourselves: Is this fair? Is this right?
A Woman Is Also Somebody's Child
Before she became a wife, she was a daughter—omo eni—raised with love and hope. Her parents had dreams for her, just like any parent would have for a son. She went to school, built ambition, and developed talent.
But many times, once she marries, her dreams are pushed aside—either by her husband or the expectations placed on her.
Let me say this clearly: Marriage should not kill a woman’s dream.
Being someone’s wife is a blessing, but it should not become a burden that buries her purpose in life.
As Men, We Must Do Better
A real man is not afraid of his wife’s success. In fact, he celebrates it.
As men, we must be deliberate in supporting the dreams and aspirations of our wives. Help her grow. Help her rise. Help her become the woman she was created to be. You don't lose anything by doing so—you gain everything.
A strong woman is not a threat to her husband. She is his greatest strength.
In Yoruba, we say:
“Bí ọkọ bá gbé aya sórí, ilé a dáa.”
When a husband uplifts his wife, the home prospers.
To the Women: Don’t Forget Who You Are
To every woman reading this: Please don’t lose yourself.
Yes, you are a wife. Yes, you are a mother. But first, you are a person, with goals, purpose, and identity. Don’t allow anyone or anything—culture, tradition, or pressure—to erase your dreams.
You were not created just to survive. You were made to shine.
The Girl Child Matters Too
Let’s also talk about the girl child.
From birth, girls are told to “calm down,” “stay in their lane,” and “wait for marriage.” But what about encouraging them to become doctors, pilots, engineers, governors, or presidents?
Every girl child has greatness inside her. It is our job—both as parents and as a society—to make sure she believes it.
We should raise our girls with courage, confidence, and character. Let them know that their dreams are just as valid as any boy’s.
Let’s Build Homes, Not Prisons
Too many homes have become prisons where women are trapped by fear, control, and lack of support. That must stop.
Let’s build homes where husbands and wives grow together, where dreams are shared—not sacrificed.
Let us also teach our sons to see women as partners, not property. And teach our daughters to believe that marriage is not the end of their dreams—but one part of their journey.
Final Words
In all my years in public life and leadership, I’ve seen one truth again and again:
When you empower a woman, you empower a whole generation.
So I say to the men: Support her. Uplift her. Stand by her.
And to the women: Never forget who you are. Your dreams still matter.
And to society: Let us stop killing potential in the name of tradition.
Together, we can build a future where both men and women fulfill their destiny—side by side, not one behind the other.
Let’s do better.
– Prince Laja Adeoye (PLA)
A voice for justice. A believer in equity. A servant of the people.
